What a difference a year makes

I have been thinking a lot of late how much things have changed in the last year for not only Vivian but the Von Bs as a couple.

A year ago Vivian was being booked for other Queen’s shows and now not only is Vivian being booked for shows, but she is booking her own shows and groups have actually asked us to plan and produce Fund Raisers for their various charities. Honestly it’s something I never thought would happened. It wasn’t that I didn’t think Vivian could host her own show, that was something I always knew. I always thought she would never get the opportunity to do so. If you didn’t know Columbus, Ohio is a very competitive city when it comes to Drag. Plus we have some of the best if not THE BEST Queens any city can offer. So for those reasons I never thought any one would take a chance on Vivian.
So when Vivian got her chance she grabbed onto it with both hands and ran with it and boy did she make the most of it and I couldn’t be more proud of her. Not only did she make the most of the opportunity presented to her but she was also able use that opportunity to help not only the gay community but the Columbus community as a whole. What more could any one ask for from something that truly is a hobby for not just her but myself as well. Yes I will finally admit it, Drag as become a hobby of mine as well. Honestly how could it not after 5.5 years of Vivian being alive.

For me personally the best of part of Vivian are the Fund Raisers we have been able to produce. They have become something that I love being asked to do and some times something I actively pursue doing. There really isn’t a better feeling than helping others and some thing I would not have the opportunity to do if it was for Vivian; and all you, my Vivettes, you have continued to support everything Vivian does and promotes. Thank you from the bottom of both of our hearts. If it wasn’t for your support I don’t know if Vivian could have come so far so quickly.

Please don’t take this entry as me bragging about Vivian because it’s not what it is at all. It’s a reflection of how much things can change if one has patience, drive and a passion to succeed. Plus support from a ton of different people. It took a village of people for Vivian to get where she is. So to all of those people, Thank You. It’s like Vivian always says “Everything happens for reason, some times we won’t realize what that reason is until much later.” There are times I don’t realize how wise Vivian is when it comes to life as a whole. Life for me is something I’m not very good at handling lucky for me I have Vivian to help guide me through it.

In summary thank you the last 5.5 years and wait to you see what we have in store for you in the future.

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Just My Drag Cents

So as I’m sure all of you are aware Religious Freedom has been in the news a lot lately thanks to Governor Pence and his signing of Indiana’s Religious Freedom Law. As any responsible gay man, I have been reading and watching as many debates as I can to better understand both sides. Yes I’m a firm believer in knowing your enemy. So I watch and read many anti gay articles to learn as much as possible about the opposition.

On this particular topic though I feel our opposition has no idea what they want or what they are trying to fight for. In every interview I have watched supporters of the new law can never answer the simple question on why the law is needed or if it supports discrimination. I’m sorry if you can’t answer these basic questions there is something wrong, plain and simple. It always comes back to a person shouldn’t have to do something that goes against their religion.

What I don’t understand is how does selling a good or service to a same sex couple’s wedding go against one’s religion exactly.  These CUSTOMERS aren’t asking you to celebrate their wedding, they are asking your to service their wedding, and secondly their wedding is a civil one not a religious one. There is a difference between the two and the very constitution you like to quote for “your freedom of religion” also states “separation of Church and State” and “all men are create equal”. You can’t have one without the other and I’m sorry but when it comes to a business that falls more under the header of state than Church.

But even more basic thanks to state laws your business  is to serve the public, all of the public not just the ones you want. If that is the type of business you want to run then change it to a private business where your customers have to pay a membership fee and agree to terms of service. Then you can serve only “your kind of people”.

A same same couple wishing to purchase goods or services for their wedding  does not prevent you from practicing your religion and I’m sorry you practicing your religion should not prevent  them from getting what they need for their wedding. To me that is very reason for the separation of the Church from the State.

 

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DFW3

So my Vivettes, this past Friday was the third Queens & Weiners show at Dirty Franks West and I have to say WOW and THANK YOU for all your support. The place was packed once again. Each month this show grows and honestly we could be happier.

I have to say the only down fall this show is I can’t really give a recap because I’m stuck in the DJ booth ( the office) playing the music. However from the applauds and laughter that I do get to hear it sounds like everyone from the queens to the audience to the staff is having a fantastic time.

This show just re-enforces to me one of Vivian’s biggest assets is her hosting ability. Yes Vivian may not dance the house down but she is one hell of a host and entertainer. It shows each and every time Vivian hosts that she is there to make sure everyone is having a good time. She doesn’t do it for the money or for recognition she does it becalmed  she just loves entertaining.
I have to say from the glimpses of the show I was able to hear and see Friday night Vivian was having a great time and I think part of that was because I did stress her out before the show, more on that in a later entry.

So Vivettes if you have not attended a Queens & Weiners Show or even a Three Queen Drag Brunch you are really missing out, because you see a side of Vivian that I have been writing about for the last almost four years.

It’s some thing everyone should see because honestly you will leave loving Vivian even more than you did before.

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Little Big Town Girl Crush

Incredible Song that everyone should purchase. The “controversy” around this song is just STUPID!!! There is nothing gay about the lyrics and even if there was who cares. Love is Love.

 

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Dear Indiana

FUCK YOU!

Normally I believe in taking the high road when it comes to Anti-LGBT anything but I’m when it comes to Indiana’s new law to “Protect Religious Freedom” I just can’t take that road.

If people who are religious and running a business really want to follow what the Bible says they would NOT discriminate because they disagree with a costumer what ever the reason is.

You see I have studied the Bible I felt I had to since it has been used as a weapon for so long and the core message of the Bible is LOVE and ACCEPTANCE plain and simple. No matter what the story, the message is LOVE and ACCEPTANCE even the ones that are used to preach hate, but then again if your heart is filled with HATE that is all you will take away from any lesson.

So Indiana go ahead and protect Discrimination in your back water state. My parents taught me better and I know when the final judgement comes I can go before who ever the judges may be with a clear conscience knowing that I tried to make the world a more accepting and loving place.

That Indiana is what your so called “true christians” should be doing. Not promoting hate and intolerance.

 

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Pros and Cons of being a Drag Husband Part 2

So yes I wrote Part 1 a little over a month ago and I figured it was finally time to write part 2 and list what the Pros of being a Drag Husband. This one will be a little different format and I’m going to just list them in no particular order.

1) The look in Vivian’s eyes when she is figuring out some thing new, whether that be a new costume, song, hair or what ever it is. Seeing the joy in Vivian’s yes just makes me melt and makes all the cons worth it.

2) The Pride I have for Vivian. Yes the Von Bs have made mistakes over these last 5.5 years and I’m sure we’ll make mistakes in the future. However through those mistakes Vivian has never lost sight of why she does drag. No matter what obstacles she has encountered she hold on to her principles and I couldn’t be more proud of her for it. She does it the Von B way and I know she will continue to do it that way.

3) The fun. Yes I will say it I have fun with all of this. I try to fight it as much as I can but in the end I can’t deny being married to Vivian is just plain fun. Now I’m not saying it is fun 100 % of the time but come on it this wasn’t fun why would we do it.

4)Raising money for causes I believe in. Now if I was going to rank these pros this one would be number 1 for sure. Over the last 5.5 years events that Vivian has participated in or ones that we have planned have raised tens of thousand of causes. For me the main reason for drag is charity and both Vivian and I have done every thing in our power to ensure that is a driving force behind the Von Bs.

5) The people I have met. If it wasn’t for Vivian I would have missed out on meeting some incredible people. Drag Queens attract some amazing people and Vivian is no different. I have met people that have made me want to be a better person which leads me to #6.

6) Being with Vivian makes me want to be a better person. Vivian’s heart is as big as her hair and honestly I want to be more like her. She always she’s the best in not only people but situations and I am doing my damnedest to the same thing.

7) The increase in my self confidence. When you are married to a Drag Queen you share them with everyone. This is something I have a problem with from time to time and some thing that I continually work on. It it was for Vivian I think I would be even more timid that I am. Yes I know some of you won’t believe that but it’s true.

8) The support we have for each other. Being gay is hard enough sometimes and being involved in the drag community makes it even harder from time to time. Neither one of us would be able to do anything we do with out the other one’s love and support. If it was for Vivian I would have never had the courage to apply to CCAD and get accepted.

9) She is my muse. Yes I know it sounds corny but Vivian really is my muse and inspiration for my art. It’s a new feeling for me but one that I am enjoying.

10) Love plain and simple. I love Jeff with all my heart so in turn I love Vivian. This is something I do not say or type quite often if ever but it’s true. As much as Vivian and Jeff are separate entieties the are the same. Each one makes me a better person and I’m lucky to have both of them in my life.

So there you have it my pros of being a Drag Husband. I’m sure one or two surprised you because one or two surprised me.

 

 

 

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March’s Visions of Vivian

Be sure to check out the Visions of Vivian calendar to see where the Girl with the extreme figure will be in March.

 

 

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New Wonder Viv Concept

Okay my Vivettes,

This a sketch of a new Wonder Viv Costume I have been thinking about.

What do you think?

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Pros and Cons of being a Drag Husband Part 1

I have been thinking about writing this entry off and on for about a year now. Not sure why it has taken me this long to finally do it. Maybe there was a part of me that was afraid to objectively look at my life as a Drag Husband. Or maybe there was a part of me that felt if I did the cons list it would be a betrayal of Vivian. Another possibility was maybe I was just lazy. All I know is being married to Drag Queen has some major pros, however as we all know there can not be pros without some cons. So let’s get those cons out of the way quickly so I can start on part 2 of this piece.

For me the biggest con of being a Drag Husband is the time commitment. As I have stated before Vivian takes a lot of time; between the trips to KY for costume fittings, to shopping for supplies, to the performances. Out of all that the time the one that is the worst for me sometimes is the performances. There are times that I am just not in the mood to be out or have to worry about dressing Vivian and those are the days or weekends that I am difficult to deal with. It is those times that any little that goes wrong or I feel is an annoyance can send me off the deep end; and after 12 years together who takes the blunt of it? If you guested Vivian you would be 100 % correct.

Do I regret my behavior afterwards? Without a doubt I do. Especially when my behavior makes Vivian feel like I don’t support her or respect her, because that is just not true. What she does amazes me and makes me so proud but more on that in Part 2.

The next con for me is the amount of Drag that is required for Vivian to do what she does. Whether it is a simple bar show or a full out production show a Vivian performances means carrying a ton of drag into the venue. It most cases the car is completely filled and takes both us making 2 trips to carry all the drag. However this particular con is a catch 22 there would be NO Vivian if it wasn’t for Vivian. What I mean by that is you Vivettes have come to expect a certain level from Vivian and that level can not be achieved without a ton of drag. So yes it is a con but it is a neccesary con.

Another con for me is when Vivian forgets items she needs. Worst case scenario this means I have to drive back to Wonder Viv Studio or the house and get what ever she forgot. Best case scenario is she forgets something on a day I drop her off and is coming back to help her dress. Then all I have to do is to make sure I remember to bring with me when I go back to where ever she is performing. I have to say if this happens to occur on a day I’m not particularly looking forward to being involved with a drag show, I take it out on Vivian, once again making me feel terrible for doing that.

I would have to say the biggest con to being a Drag Husband is when I allow my temper or insecurity or intolerance or any combination of those 3 to make feel Vivian like I don’t support or her or want her to succeed. That is honestly a terrible feeling and some thing I have been working on improving these last 5 years.

So yes as you can see there are some major cons to be a Drag Husband. However those cons lead to some incredible pros which I will address in Part 2.

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Movie Star Weekend

Well my Vivettes, it has been some time since the Von Bs have had a Drag filled weeked like this past one. We started the night out on Friday night with taking in Virginia West’s latest production: Stadium Virginiaum: The Return at Axis Nightclub. It has been about a year since we have taken in a West Family production and I have to say I forgot what we were missing. This show did not disappoint. The energy and music was out of this world. It was a great time and I am glad we decided to take it in. I can honestly say I can’t wait to see what the West minds come up with for their next show. I have no doubt it won’t disappoint.

Then Saturday and Sunday Vivian had the priviledge of performing in Deva Station: Movie Star and let me say this show was amazing. Every single performer delivered on the theme and gave it their all. The audience was thoroughly entertained.

Vivian broke out a new number and one of her best numbers for this show. The new number was even a “production” number that had “back up” dancers and required some rehearsal time. Yes you read that correctly Vivian rehearsed. Yes I know that is some thing you are not accustomed to reading because well I don’t write it very often. The number was “Hello Dolly” and I have to say I was impressed with out it turned out. Especially considering Vivian thought about not doing it. I’m so glad she stuck with it.
Vivian’s second number was “When You AreWell my Vivettes, it has been some time since the Von Bs have had a Drag filled weeked like this past one. We started the night out on Friday night with taking in Virginia West’s latest production: Stadium Virginiaum: The Return at Axis Nightclub. It has been about a year since we have taken in a West Family production and I have to say I forgot what we were missing. This show did not disappoint. The energy and music was out of this world. It was a great time and I am glad we decided to take it in. I can honestly say I can’t wait to see what the West minds come up with for their next show. I have no doubt it wont’ dissapoint.
Then Saturday and Sunday Vivian had the priviledge of performing in Deva Station: Movie Star and let me say this show was amazing. Every single performer delivered on the theme and gave it their all. The audience was thoroughly entertained.
Vivian broke out a new number and one of her best numbers for this show. The new number was even a “production” number that had “back up” dancers and required some rehearsal time. Yes you read that correctly Vivian rehearsed. Yes I know that is some thing you are not accustomed to reading because well I don’t write it very often. The number was “Hello Dolly” and I have to say I was impressed with out it turned out. Especially considering Vivian thought about not doing it. I’m so glad she stuck with it.

Vivian’s second number was “When You Are Good To Momma”. I have to say to date this is still one of Vivian’s best number if not her BEST number. She has so much fun performing this one and you can that when she is on stage. This number brings a simile to everyones face and for me it makes all the headaches of being a drag husband worth it.
If you missed either of these shows shame on you, you missed out on some fantastic entertainment.
Big shout to both Virginia West and Deva Station for sell out shows that delivered incredible entertainment and show why I call Columbus The Drag Mecca of the World.

Good To Momma”. I have to say to date this is still one of Vivian’s best number if not her BEST number. She has so much fun performing this one and you can that when she is on stage. This number brings a simile to everyones face and for me it makes all the headaches of being a drag husband worth it.
If you missed either of these shows shame on you, you missed out on some fantastic entertainment.

Big shout to both Virginia West and Deva Station for sell out shows that delivered incredible entertainment and show why I call Columbus The Drag Mecca of the World.

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